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Try Focusing on Your Strengths

2020 has been a year of uncertainties, changes, transitions, and adaptations. It is easy to forget what our strengths are and focus on the negative. But what does focusing on the negative or on our deficits do? Oftentimes, this creates stress, anxiety, insecurity, and self-doubt. What about when we focus on the deficits of others? Sometimes, this can create distance, lower the expectations we have of others, or even limit their abilities. That’s why I recommend this: try focusing on your strengths and the strengths of others too!

Take on the Challenge

I want to present a challenge, not a New Year’s resolution (those don’t tend to last), but a challenge you take on daily. Challenge yourself to focus on your strengths and build on your strengths. Challenge yourself to focus on and encourage the strengths of others in your life. This small shift in perspective can make way for positivity and motivation.

sign identify your strengths with a cup of coffee

When you focus on your strengths, you will most likely also think about your deficits and that’s ok. We all have deficits. We have all things we excel in and things we could use some help with. It is not realistic to not acknowledge the deficits. Instead, let’s focus on the strengths and use our strengths to improve upon our deficits. Sounds easier said than done, right?

Let’s say one of your strengths is planning, but follow-through is difficult. Use your strength of planning to also plan how to follow through. Set small goals for yourself to allow you to take on the challenge without becoming overwhelmed or discouraged. Do the same for others. If your child is great at getting out of things and somehow getting their way, that’s fantastic! Those are incredible problem-solving skills! Put those to use…” your room is messy, what is the best and fastest way you can get this cleaned up so you can get to play your video games faster?” I’m sure you’re thinking “that will never work”, and it may not. The idea, though, is to find strengths and use those strengths to help overcome deficits.

Making it Happen

How do we do this? Where do you even start? The first step is to make a list of your strengths. Think of what you do well. Are you great at time management, planning, helping others, multi-tasking? Whatever it might be, add it to your list. Start small. If you only think of a few things or even only one, that’s ok. The next step is to see in what areas your strength can help you that day. Remember, we want to take this one day at a time. As you keep doing this daily, your focus will slowly start to shift to what you can do, instead of what you cannot do.

a woman making it happen

Counseling can be a great way to take on this challenge and focus on strengths! Contact us for more information and to get started.